Recently “Modern Manners” from the Times Online in the UK ran an etiquette advice column regarding kilts. An American in California asked what tartan he might wear to a Ball with his fiance, her family having asked that he wear a kilt.
Perhaps, Philip Howard, writing for this English chain of newspapers was not the best person to ask for advice. The column basically said only a Highland Scot should ever wear the kilt! A bit like saying only a Texas Cowboy should ever wear blue jeans, in my opinion. After-all, pretend to be a cowboy in Texas and it is said, “All hat and no cattle.”
I’ve noticed that, by and large, it is non-kilt-wearing non-Scots who will tell others they may not wear the kilt. Perhaps the columnist isn’t man enough to wear it himself, so he tells others they can not, and thereby saves his fragile self-esteem? He does at least give a bit of advice that the Californian could consider Blackwatch, though at the same time berating him as a weirdo for living in California.
To more properly answer Dave Null’s question; most people would not be offended that you choose to wear their tartan because of its beauty, so long as you treat it with respect and learn a bit of its history. It may also bear mentioning here that the tradition of family tartans was started by English weavers and promoted most strongly by Queen Victoria. Still, if one feels he should not wear a tartan honoring another family, he might wear one of his district, an ancestor’s district, his former military branch, a national tartan, or one of a great many fashion tartans. Some popular possibilities could be the California tartan, Pride of Scotland, Isle of Skye, or Braveheart.
It particularly disturbs me that the advice columnist suggested it may not be appropriate even for a Highland Scot to wear the kilt outside of the Highlands. Perhaps the columnist has never heard of the popular Highland Games events held throughout the world, or pipers wearing kilts, or even of the Irish Saffron kilt whose history goes back over 100 years and was associated with Irish Nationalism.
Were this columnist’s unfortunate advice to be widely followed, the trouser tyrants would win, the kilt eventually vanishing into the pages of history.